co-parenting counseling & consulting

Learn to thrive as parenting partners.

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You are divorced for a reason and are struggling to work together.

Divorce is complicated. Trying to figure out how to raise children with your former partner can be incredibly challenging. The romantic relationship has ended and there may be feelings of hurt, anger, tension, lack of trust, resentment, betrayal, and so much more. Even basic communication can be emotional and full of conflict. It may feel like an impossibility to share parenting with someone you can not stand to be around.

However, even though the marriage is over, you are both still the parents of your children. And your children deserve the best versions of each of you. If you remain stuck in your own feelings, you will not be able to best meet the needs of your children.

Co-parenting counseling can help you to establish a new parenting relationship that focuses on the present needs of your children. The goal is to create more of a “business-like” relationship. Co-parenting counseling is not about healing or fixing the past. It is not about figuring out why your marriage ended or who was right and who is wrong. It is not about sharing your feelings about the other person. Co-parenting counseling is children-centered.

Co-parenting counseling is about the here and now, learning to communicate about your children, and staying focused on their changing needs. I work with both partners together or with one parent seeking individual guidance. My extensive professional training and personal experience in navigating challenging divorce dynamics will help you move forward as parenting partners.

Co-parenting counseling helps create a new path.

Goals for Co-parenting Counseling:

Keeping the focus on the present needs of your children
Separating from the marital relationship/creating a new co-parenting partnership
Getting unstuck from the emotions of past conflict
Building effective communication strategies
Setting healthy boundaries
Disengaging from current conflict
Learning new conflict resolution skills
Learning joint decision-making skills
Understanding your children’s needs at different developmental stages
How to reach agreements on new activities for your children
Being in the same physical space without conflict
Navigating milestones and special events
When and how to be flexible to meet your children’s changing needs
How to manage when one party is not following the agreement
How to handle unhealthy and/or abusive communication
How to use a co-parenting communication App
How to navigate co-parenting with a high-conflict ex
Navigating new relationships and introducing new partners to children
Navigating blended family dynamics
How to respond to issues and questions from your children

Individual Co-parenting Consulting

when you need individual guidance in working with your co-parent
when your co-parent is unwilling to participate in joint counseling
when you are dealing with a high-conflict and/or abusive co-parent and need support
when you need tools to manage communication and decision-making with a high conflict ex
when you are parallel parenting and need individual guidance
when you need support and guidance in navigating the family court system post-divorce
when you need a strategy partner to support and guide you through the divorce process

Individual co-parenting consulting will provide you with skills and tools to disengage from conflict, set healthy boundaries, and improve communication. While you can not control how your co-parent may respond, I will guide you in managing your part of the relationship as best as possible. By learning to separate from conflict and staying child-centered, you may reduce your own stress level. These strategies will also help in presenting yourself in a more favorable light to the Court or other professionals. Most importantly, you will be your best self and will be better equipped to meet the needs of your children.
I understand that it does not always take two to tango and you may be dealing with a very challenging co-parent. Your former partner may be controlling, angry, aggressive, blaming, demeaning, shaming, and/or abusive in other ways. You may feel the need to defend yourself against baseless accusations or rationalize with examples of what may have actually occurred. However, this pattern just keeps you engaged in the process. Together, we can work through understanding your co-parenting dynamics and build a healthy toolbox to help you to move forward and parent your children as best as possible.